I tend to want more than people can give me. We all have our expectations in life, be it in relationships with friends or family, jobs, anything. Being quite opinionated I come across this problem quite often that I expect more.
I am a very caring and giving nature but expect the same in return. I realise that is a fine line to be treading on. Everyone has a different perception of what is a lot, what they receive vs what they give. For instance, I can be under the impression I give a lot of attention to Natalie but, Natalie, on the other hand, might find I forget here once while.
The teachings of Buddhism says nothing is real – it is all in the eye of the beholder what is real and what is not. It is all ephemeral. So where does that leave me? Am I in the right or in the wrong? How do we come to a mutual thing that works for all involved?
Maybe the answer can be found in Buddhism too. We are all driven by our need (could be considered the id) the consequence pain. Whatever you long for in this world it will sooner or later disappoint you. Only the knowledge of the truth will save you.
So maybe honesty is the key. I can apply honesty to myself, which I do. But how do I get honesty out of others. Especially people that shield themselves with a wall or even worse lie to get what they want?
It is all ephemeral
Possible the cure is in letting go. Letting go of fear or even the person. Letting go of the need and expectation. Trying to let things just be.