Instilled belief by someone else
Have you ever had someone drum a belief into your head so that you start believing it yourself?
Having someone breathing down your neck looking for your every flaw would make anyone paranoid. The worst is I know the mechanics of the self-fulling prophecy, it functions on a similar basis like OCD; Feed the beast enough and you are producing a lane groove. It starts off with this belief that impacts our actions, our actions produce a reaction or a product which proves us we are correct, which then reinforces our behaviour and our beliefs. This is a vicious circle but how do you break it? Especially when you have someone affirming that belief?
I would say the affirmation is quite clearly counterproductive and semi-abusive at best especially coming from someone else.
This is a vicious circle but how do you break it? Especially when you have someone affirming that belief?
Resolving the issue
The first step to getting out of this spiral is to acknowledge themes and sharping one’s awareness towards them. We tend to gravitate towards unfinished business. If you have had abusive parents then you seek out abusive spouses to put it in very simplistic terms.
To make this shift work we need to address the problem and then place awareness to remove and resolve these beliefs we harbour towards ourselves. But what if someone else has their fixed ideas towards us. If for instance, the person x thinks you are unreliable, they will only notice the times you are and not actually take into account all the times that you are reliable. How do we influence this person, as they are influencing us negatively?
The worst is when trying to find an answer I only came across what I had already known, that prophecies work both ways, positive as well as negative. Maybe gaslighting would be an option to beat the person with their own weapons, albeit does that not mean I have stooped to their level?