It is in the eye of the beholder….
I got spanked by an older coworker today with a folder. Should I feel bad about it? Hmmm…
Well, I did not. I feel this whole #Metoo has blown everything out of proportion.
Afterall should it not be about do I feel violated or not?
This whole movement has gotten out of hand. Why should I have a guilty conscience for not feeling like these women do? Who gives them the right to decide what is a violation of myself or my integrity? If it does not bother me! Nowadays dare you to be of another opinion to the overall lemming collection, you will be shunned and burnt on the stake like a witch 300 years ago. The modern form of a witch hunt. Abuse them verbally live and/or on social media.
Sad as I find it is all a very personal question and like many things in life the poison is in the dosage. I am not saying sexual abuse is right. I find it shifts the view away from the hard forms of sexual abuse that are scaring and lessens the focus on eradicating those. They are the ones that cause mental illness, agony and suicide.
Also in doing so, we are pushing men away, we are scaring them into not flirting with us at all. Is a wolf whistle really that bad? Sure, you would rather have the hunky builder do it than the fat old man on the park bench, but do I really need to turn in to a feminist banshee because of it? No. I see it from the guy’s point of view but also from a woman point of view of a less militant demeanour. We should all get back to the roots and be a little more empathetic towards each other and pay attention to each others’ needs across gender, race or finance. When did we lose our common sense and become this opinion mob society? Yes, we all have a right to our own opinion but not the right to force it upon others. Especially if you are making them feel bad! Think about that. In doing so you are violating my integrity too. So you are not better!
Yes we all have a right to our own opnion but not the right to force it upon others. In doing so you are violating my integraty too!
And yes I also behave badly, say and do things that could be considered abusive by men. Yes, this whole debate has led to me thinking about my own behaviour and questioning it. But as long as the men are smiling and not complaining, why should I change my ways? Actually, they find a sexist woman quite amusing.
Sexual abuse is also not just limited to women.
So people lets consider each other’s feelings and accept that we all have our own limits and opinions and be kind to each other.