From bad behaviour to manipulation
Sometimes you come to a crossroad in life where you have to choose or you have simply outgrown a friendship. Other times you just get sick and tired of the person’s behaviour or how they treat you so you decide to sever the connection. It would be nice if it was always this simple but sometimes it is just not. I have two dear people I should come to a ruling about based on their behaviour but I am finding coming to a conclusion quite hard. One I will miss because of the abundance of possibilities but are they more than a mere illusion?
Chasing an illusion would be a waste of my time. So where do I draw the line?
The other one is a friend that I have grown close to in a short time and I miss when I have not seen her in a while. Where do I draw the line if all is about her and she just constantly starts fights about petty things and behaves toxic and that with anybody and everybody?
And what if with both of them, it is driven by me wanting to uphold this friendship and them taking a lazy back seat with various excuses?
I have some other friends and also family that would not put up with such conduct. To be quite honest ask myself why I do it. I guess I prefer to give people chance and accept that we are different but maybe it has some sort of borderline component to the decision as letting go is never easy.
Trying to find the answer
This will be a tough one or not depending on how long I will put up with their shenanigans.
See this is where I start wondering if it is the lack of communication on my side even though I subconsciously know it is not. But why do I go there? This boils down to the histrionic, narcissistic, borderline triangle. Where I start questioning myself and making up excuses for other peoples tardy etiquette! Maybe I should start demanding with a deadline? As nicely placing what I wish for goes nowhere.
I am sick and tired of playing the blame game I have just realised. It is a fact and that is it. In life pointing the finger is just a method to deflect from the obvious naked truth that some use constantly. It is a form of subtle manipulation when used to absurdum is not so subtle anymore.
In life pointing the finger is just a method to deflect from the obvious naked truth.
I will demand what I need and see where that takes me. In the worst outcome, we will go our separate ways, as what does it bring to hold on to a friendship where my or your needs are not met? Plus nobody can be forced to do or say what he or she does not want to and what would be the point of getting lied to if it is not the truth but merely that what I want to hear? Nothing as actions speak louder than words and the person will never materialise to what I want them too as it was a lie.
Please feel free to drop me a line below and give me some input. How do you deal with friendships like this? Is there a solution? When do you draw the line?