Words of wisdom
For some it is an active choice while others just stumble into it – long distance relationships. No matter which angle you are coming from it does not make it any easier. I have been searching for the formula to make a partnership like that work but also rewarding. The most important thing to bear in mind is that it is and will take a lot of work to make it work. However, it is a learning experience worthwhile and an enlightenment in terms of the relationship itself. Having a distance can really set into perspective how much you mean to each other and show you how important you are to your partner.
I want to be a choice not an option
That quote sticks in my mind when it comes to this topic. The distance is a make it or break it thing. Most men will not put up with it or lose sight of the goal. If not you really have a keeper who fancies you to the moon and back.
Keeping the eye on the ball
No, I have not been watching too much world cup nor does this paragraph have anything to do with football. It is a simple summary of solutions/ideas/inspirations, name it what you want, to help with overcoming the distance, staying close and bonding with your beloved one.
- Create a date night
With that I mean take a few hours at least once a week where you share time together as a couple doing the same thing but via phone or facetime. It might sound really silly but share a beer at the pub together via telephone or watching a film together via facetime. That can have a real impact and be the little but important difference.
- Saying Good Morning and Good Night
It does not even have to be a call. Just a little text to let the other know how important they are and that you are thinking about them can go a long way.
- Texting about little things during the day
Same here, it lets your opposite know you are interested, want to share things with them and that you cherish them being a part of your life. It is synonymous with the important moments you want to tell the most valuable people in your life about first.
- Handwritten notes and letters
I know that most people do not favour those things nowadays but I believe it just makes it that much more valuable when you do. Send him or her a letter. I personally love hiding notes whenever I see him again anywhere from jacket pockets to the fridge, nowhere is out of bounds. It makes his day every time and even makes him chuckle when it is in a ridiculous place like the fridge.
Communication is paramount when you live apart as that is the only form of intimacy possible across the distance so you should exploit this as much as you can. Talk about things that move or bother you freely. Holding back tends to build a wall, open communication makes the relationships stronger.
- Surprise turn up
I would not try this one unless you have conspired with a friend or family member of your other half. So that they can prevent him or her from making any real plans otherwise this one might just backfire and you are left sitting by yourself.
- I smell you
We all have things we love about our partner, like his or her smell, so giving them a worn t-shirt or hair scrunchy that smells of you is a little but very effective memory trigger, as most of our subconscious or memory is very easily accessed via smell or music.
This is considered old school too, but like I mentioned above, it is an effective method to trigger the memories of good times past.
- Little surprise aka care packet
It is just a box that can be sent or handed over with little goodies that show you care, as they are things your other half enjoys or things from your neck of the woods that make him or her recall you.
- Remembering things
Remembering things they told you about things going on in their life or what they like or do not, all those things are important in an everyday partnership but even more so when apart. So if you have to take notes, then do. She or He will cherish you for remembering her love of daisies or that he drinks his coffee with 2 lumps of sugar.
- Sexting, phone sex, etc.
I do not find it a bad idea at all. I am just very careful perse about these things, as the last thing I want is, to turn up on an illicit page with my bits showing. It can keep things hot and steamy so I suggest go for it with caution, know your boundaries and do not let anyone talk you into anything you do not feel comfortable with.
These are some of the things I have deemed very helpful. I will come back and update the list from time to time when I remember things or have new findings. I hope that these suggestions will provide help to those who are in need of it. If you have any suggestions of your own, please do not hesitate to add them into the comment section, as I am always willing to learn.
Remember the most important thing is to stay connected