The princess on the pea or finding the needle in the haystack

What happened to the princes? Why are there only frogs?

Okay, so we all do not want to spend our life alone at least most. So why is it so hard to find someone? Even online where you have an abundance of choice it is still hard to find the fitting suitor. I do not believe that my requirements for my partner are unreasonable but I also do not want to settle for less. I know I will have to make a few compromises but I am not willing to compromise on everything. I believe a lot of people share my sentiment. So why has it become so hard and why is there seemingly less choice? Have we become less flexible or have our standards gone up?
I am sure as so many things in life the more available, accessible and advanced things become the more our requirements go up, e.g. like having a fridge or not in the 1950’s.

Where do I go from there in this catch 22 situation?

I mean I would like a reliable, loyal partner with ambition, humour and the same outlook and goals in life. Someone I can share my day with, surprise, have a laugh with, spoil and enjoy the finer things in life with. Ideal would be if he were educated, handsome and had a nest egg, but those are not the be all and end all of this.

So why did I get dealt so crappy hands?

I know my friends say you picked them. I am not quite sure that comment is fair. Seeing choosing a weirdo can always happen to anyone and the older you get the more faulty produce is left on the shop shelf, that is my saying.

Once upon a time and a whole lot of WTF

I will let you into some weird anecdotes of my dating experience of the last few years and yes there is a vast amount of weirdos.

  • We had plans to go for brunch (his idea, his choice of venue, really expensive restaurant), he came with a bag which I commented on (supposedly for fitness, more like weapon of excuse). Then he mentioned he had already eaten at home even before I sat down and did not want to order. The waitress was not impressed as they are only open for brunch, not drinks. I decided to have brunch. He listened to me, never told me really anything about himself. I wanted to finish by getting a fruit bowl, he said he needed to go to fitness. So my reaction was let me eat this then we can go. His answer no I really have to go to fitness and fled. Then it turned out he did not even pay for his drinks. Thank god the waitress was understanding and did not charge me. By the way, met this guy on an elite dating app and not tinder.

 

  • Another chap was even more disrespectful. He went on a drinks date, decided to invite his friend along after spending the hour before bragging about how well hung he is as he is Mexican. We went out as he and his friend smoke. Outside he was eyeing up another girl. The second time he went for a smoke I decided to stay indoors. He dragged the girl in and in all honesty tried to sell this drunken chick as an old acquaintance. However, they had not yet made the connaissance of my savvy self and slammed him in the floor by saying I know all and your bird will be going home with her male BFF as they have already been together that is why he is hanging on to her and drooling all over her. Congratulation you have just won the 1st prize for the shittiest date and I am off clubbing without you. Good luck on getting laid tonight.

 

  • This one is similar to the first and actually originated from the same app. Is it only me that sees a pattern? He showed up for the second date. All well and good we went for drinks and then when it came to paying he wanted to but his card got declined. He works as a financial lawyer. He only has one card? Mhhh I was annoyed but paid. The next day we met for lunch. Shortly after ordering he disappeared to the ATM, to only come back and beg me to pay. Are all these supposed hotshots pathological liars or con artists?

I am sure there are a few more that I cannot think of at the moment. Let me know what your experiences are and if you have a super partner how you found them. I am really curious.

In the mean time I will be analysing and thinking of ways how to find mr. right for me.

 

 

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Sarah

#mentalhealthambassador All the ruminations on this page belong to moi. I am not a certified psychologist or psychiatrist. It is not my intention to force my opinions, ideals, ideas upon you or tell you what to do. This page was created to inspire you, enforce you and hopefully guide you. I am a on a quest to self-fullfillment for a happy, healthy, sporty and adventurous life. By being curious and open-minded I encounter myself, others and the world that sorrounds me in ever changing ways that inspire me. I would like to help reduce the stigma still clinging to mental health. The vessel I choose to transport my message is this blog. This Blog is love and a lot of soul. It is a journey through my realm. A soul striptease. My focus lies on a healthy lifestyle and the awareness movement. To see the change be the change!

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