Respecting others boundaries
I have my private space, which surrounds me like anyone else. In the last two days, it has been violated by two different people, on two different occasions and by two different genders. I believe one should respect others boundaries and realise when someone is feeling uncomfortable. Obviously, some people have no sense of others private space or know when they are overstepping a line or they bluntly choose to ignore it. Though with most I am sure it is just pure blindness. Blinded by want, lust, need or hope, which still does not make it better or right.
Pointing it out
Despite being a confident individual even I lack to voice my opinion in moments like this or to be harsher. Though I should be. I may lack in spine, but mostly I am so startled that I say things in a too polite manner or not at all, which is wrong.
It should be a firm and pointed remark stating how this is making me feel, what it is that is bothering me and asking the person to stop. If that is ignored then I would go to the next step and physically make my point.
But why do we lack in doing so? I believe it has to do with the need to be connected, not wanting to disappoint, which is wrong, as by accepting such behaviour we are letting ourselves down, which we should never do! Screw losing others or disappointing. Then there is the barter factor/scenario, that is a choice that one can later become to regret. That can also become a very sticky situation, where you find yourself manoeuvred into to corners that make you feel queasy and uncomfortable.
Never accept anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
By accepting such behaviour we are letting ourselves down, which we should never do!
Say no and stay firm! Go with what you are comfortable with not more.