Weeding through rubbish

How many more?

I had a very insightful and productive conversation with my neighbour regarding online dating. Her impression was either side of the fence gay or not it is hard and no matter what gender you date, we all struggle with the same. Her point of view was also that I would have to go on dates with maybe 10 shitty guys, to then go on dates with another 10 that are okay, to then find 5 that I might be interested in. That is true however I do believe reality is harsher.

My analogy to dating:

You have a bowl of popcorn. That is the total global male population.
Half of that bowl of popcorn can get axed as they are too old or young. Then you can kill a quarter as they are taken, then you can half and that quarter and kill the 8th as they are gay, from the leftover 8th you can exclude the 12th as they are incompatible for reasons like education or do not speak the same language etc., the 1/24 do not want or have the same outlook, the 48th are commitophobics, and the last 96th are guys that are not my type. So in the best case scenario of a global male population of 3.08 billion, I just have to sieve trough roughly¬†39’583’333 Million men all over the globe. Mhh seems doable. Sarcastic cough. Plus that is not encompassing the more precise breakdown of it which at the end leaves me with a crumb of a popcorn due to wishes and values that should match up.

My whole analogy is realistic but got labelled harsh. Yes, life is harsh and with online dating, it has become this much harsher. Everybody a poke or swipe away. Everything has become the chase for the next best thing, always trying to see if there might be something better that could tweak my interest.

Yes, life is harsh and with online dating, it has become this much harsher. Everybody a poke or swipe away.

Without the meandering possibility, the past presented itself simpler. I believe there was not the vast amount of possibilities so people did not think of looking for something better. In the two pools of very small communities I know in which people share the same wishes, hopes and values people seem vastly less picky and seem to settle easier. They seem happier and stick together.

Also, gender shifts, attitudes, fights and all that goes with equality, lead to more pressure and strain on relationships. It becomes harder to find someone who has the same wishes and expectations. Not to mention globalisation where people of all sort of socio-ecological background are now mingling whilst mangling the dating scene. Adding to the intricacy. We are all becoming more complex leading to our disintegration.

I love diversity but too much choice inhibits…